Friday, March 13, 2009

Pain & BDSM Play: The Day After

Well here I am thinking about one of my favorite tasty subjects - pain.
Specifically on the subject of pain and BDSM play.

So I had a few questions turning around in my head and thought I would see if some kinksters would like to share their own answers with me.

Question:
What is the moment when you feel pain the most?

During bdsm play?
The moment you come down from subspace/masochistspace/otherspace?
The day (weeks etc...) after?

What kind of pain do you feel, during bdsm play...and after?
How do you feel the day after?

Which kind of pain,that you´ve experienced, lasts the longest?
A flogging?
A caning?
A paddling?
Some other kind of pain administered?

I was talking about how I thought a caning was something that lasts the longest, when I was having a chat with some fellow kinky people a little while ago. For me, a caning is a multi-layered kind of pain, which goes through many layers of flesh...and mind too, in some ways. A caning has a very particular sharpness to it that is unforgettable, I believe.

And what do you do to alleviate pain, the sensation of pain, afterwards?
Does anyone have any particular remedies that are proven effective?
Or are you of the school of thought that you would rather continue to suffer (and savour) the pain aftermath?

Well, kinky inquiring minds wants to know! :)

Please reply in comments to this blog.
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Thanks!

Angel :)


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6 comments:

Danielle said...

Very interesting subject, Angel.

I love flogging, caning and paddling but cannot tolerate bare handed spankings. Those sting the worst. I don't like bruising, especially by any of these instruments as that would suggest a deep tissue injury that I don't want to inflict on my bottoms. My personal favorites are floggers and whips for myself. The sting of whips lasts for 4 to 5 days, and I don't try to alleviate it in any way.

I have also had sharp pain applied to my g-spot which caused an instantaneous orgasm and a sensation that lasted in my mind for about 3 days. No injury, just a mental reliving of the sensation that eventually is harder to recall unless it's done again.

Pain is felt for me during play, there are residual sensations after but nothing like the initial infliction. After a good play session with my Top, I often feel like I've been hit by a freight train. It reminds me of when I used to compete in extreme endurance sports competitions, the way I felt the morning after the competition. Very similar, and it's a good and invigorating feeling.

I come down from subspace during the aftercare, but easily return back and forth until the next day/night. I don't drop unless I've played with the wrong partner. Topspace is the same, only mentally, I feel more deeply in it at times and have to withdraw to feel like I'm remaining in control.

I definitely love to savour in the sensations as long as possible. I prefer for them to last from one play session to the next when possible.

Caning is wonderfully sharp, penetrating and can be thuddy if you use more than one. It's wonderful on the soles of the feet. No matter where it's used, how much strength, what variations, I think some of the key to having the pain continue its lasting effect lay in the bottom's ability to recall the sensation.

Mystress lady Evyl said...

Ah...not sure how to answer being the giver of pain. If their pain gets too much I put on a ball gaga !!! lol.

Kidding...what ever the amount of pain I give I always keep a close eye on the sub and I beleive aftercare has a huge impact of the after pain too.

Angel said...

@Danielle said:

Now I am very curious about something, Danielle. Thanks for all the insight by the way.

But why is it that you find a bare handed spanking to be the worst?

I can see how it would be most painful for a Dom/Domme, because your hand might get tired from giving the spanking.

For me a bare handed spanking usually only feels very very good, when being on the receiving end. Of course, that´s with the bottom being properly warmed up.

And to give a bare handed spanking? Well, to me that´s such a wonderful and intimate thing. There is a real feeling of ownership of that flesh that is yours for the taking, under your bare hand.

Pain to the g-spot, oh my. Sounds like a whole kaleidoscope of pain there. I love the reliving and savoring of pain afterwards as well.I know what you mean by that invigorating feeling.

@Mystress Lady Evyl:

So what is your favorite kind of pain that you like to administer? And what is the pain your subs have told you stings the most or lasts the most?

I am curious about that. :)

Angel said...

Oh yes I wanted to mention something about after-care.

I wrote this blog from thee perspective of someone who enjoys pain & savoring the pain afterwards.

The replies I was looking for were from the point of view of being played with with proper care from the Dom/Domme/Top/etc.

Pain is a very delicate thing to administer & subs should always be carefully monitored.

The experience of a sub who was improperly played with would be quite a different ball of wax.

Thats´ a whole different blog, for another day.

selkie said...

Angel, you created a monster.... I started answering then it got really LONG .. so I did my own blog on it! citing this one of course! hope that is ok.

Angel said...

Sounds great, selkie!

Can´t wait to read your own blog on the subject.

Angel :)